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Friendships, relationships, work teams, family and plenty other unions depend on relating in order for them to survive. Relating can simply be defined as making a connection or understanding someone else’s story as if it were your own. A lot of successful marriages and friendships have been built simply through that and they remain intact to date because of that. Relating is a powerful tool and people seem not to be taking advantage of it. Sometimes we are afraid to share our stories because we feel that we will be judged, but the truth of the matter is that we can only be judged by people who do not understand us or what we’re going through, people who haven’t been in our shoes. For this reason alone, The Filling Station prides itself in grouping posts according to the people that may find them useful and also encourages conversations between those who feel that they can relate on a certain subject. It’s always refreshing to meet someone that you can identify with because that on its own is an opportunity for you to source solutions to a problem that you may have been dealing with on your own all along.
“Relating can simply be defined as making a connection or understanding someone else’s story as if it were your own”
It’s not very easy to open up and trust someone else with your story and there are many reasons behind that. At The Filling Station, we believe in the concept of opening up to a “Mirror a stranger” mentality – this basically means using the information shared by people who have conquered their demons or in the process of doing so, as an aid to your advancement. It is an opportunity for you to learn a thing or two and come up with creative ways to sort out your own “mess”. We encourage positive conversations amongst our readers and that is why all comments go through moderation before they are posted so you can be rest assured that this is a safe environment. We understand how sensitive the issue of mental health can become and realise that we have to tread carefully in everything that we do. Through comments, people are able to see parts of themselves that they’d like to connect with and from there beautiful, transforming conversations can begin to take place.
Relating not only gives you an opportunity to talk about how you feel but sometimes you actually get to hear yourself. It’s so easy to get lost in what we are complaining about so much that we fail to realise that we may have already sped through the solution without even noticing. We are social animals and we thrive on social connections to move forward in our careers, to make friends or to source the validation we feel we cannot give to ourselves, but that’s a topic for another post. The joys of relating to someone is that advice feels more actionable than it does when it comes from a practitioner because then it tends to sound more instructional. We believe that relating will help everyone build positive long lasting relationships with different kinds of people from different corners of the world. For us at The Filling Station, relating is the main ingredient in every life-changing story.
We are certain that this is a theory that will always work because for once, you can just stop everything that you’re doing and possibly bump into a shareable post about something that you identify with. If you can’t explain what you’re going through, maybe someone else can. Sometimes, all we need is someone that will say “I get it”, without any judgment. Throughout the month, we’ll be posting stories that will guide the conversation and in the comment section, you’ll get to meet people who are like you. One of our goals is to help build positive relationships between our readers because sometimes that is all you need to advance to the next level of your life.
We live by the motto that one person’s story is another person’s breakthrough and when everything is said and done the right way, we are all able to reach a conclusion that will prepare us for the life that we’ve been dreaming about.